Great food + meaningful conversations = a happy heart.
This week has been a week full of dinners with friends that we love. At first I thought, wow, this is a full week. But as we are headed over to a friends house for dinner tonight, I know it was a full week, because my heart is full.
There’s nothing I love more than quality time with people I love. My heart is full when I know that I have invested my moments well. They say friends are the family we choose and I say if that’s the case, who we spend time with is an indicator of our capacity to love and be loved.
Don’t get me wrong, I know that schedules are full with kid obligations and work and sports and life. But making room for what matters and feeds our soul is of the utmost importance.
Tonight it’s simple. I’m challenging you to schedule dinner with friends. It can be in your home, at a restaurant, or pack a picnic and head to the park (or a covered porch with all this crazy rain we’ve been having). Where you go, what you eat, those things don’t matter.
Time. Together. Conversations. Speaking life, truth and love. That’s what matters. Because the best way to connect with friends is through conversation, next time you’re together with friends let your conversations be intentional and fruitful.
After an evening with friends ask yourself these two questions:
1) Did I truly connect with them? Connection feels like I know them a little better, I know a little more about what’s going on in their world and I know a little more of their story.
2) Did our conversations hold value and bear fruit in my life and theirs? Fruit looks like we all leave encouraged, challenged, motivated to move toward Christ-likeness.
That’s it. Fun, laughter, adventure are all important parts of friendship but if I have dinner with friends and am able to connect and there’s fruit from our time together I am blessed and the Father is glorified.
Three things I know about my husband and I as a result of time well spent with great friends:
1) We love well because we have experienced genuine love.
2) We trust others because we have been trusted.
3) We can step in and fill in the gap for others because we have experienced being upheld by the arms of our friends.
I can’t stress enough how important it is for you and your marriage to have couple friends. Some older you can learn from, some in similar ages and stages you can grow with and some younger you can invest in.
Who are you supposed to have dinner with? Take time today and schedule dinner with friends. I promise you’ll be blessed and encouraged by time with them and they’ll be blessed and encouraged by time with you.