Unfiltered Fridays are my opportunity to share with you what’s on my heart. they’re unplanned, unedited and just what God puts on my heart in the moment for the moment. You can take a look at previous UNFILTERED posts about my everyday life, farm life, seasonal parenting and birthdays. Thanks for stopping by and I hope you’ll join todays conversation about change.
Saying Yes to Change
I’m a year into “retirement” and can find myself restless, unsettled and even resentful at times. As I was reading through a devotional today the thought that stuck out like a neon light was SAYING YES TO CHANGE. I think that as I have navigated the new waters of life at the farm, life with adult kids, life as a SAHM/SAHW, newfound incessant busyness followed by days of nothingness I’ve struggled with all the changes.
On the flip side, all these changes have freed me up mentally, emotionally and relationally to really press into things that matter. But retraining my brain to change the way I handle the day-to-day living has been hard. It’s as if I’ve refused to embrace or say yes to all the changes.
We hear people refer to their time in the desert or wandering in the wilderness and in this moment, I’m realizing, I have willingly allowed myself to wander in the wilderness for the past year just like the Israelites because I refused to say yes to change. I have a sneaking suspicion I’m not alone.
What does saying yes to change look like?
Embracing my new place with peace and trust.
Everything about my life from where I wake up and the time I get up to the clothes I wear and how I spend my days is different. There are days in my stubbornness I refuse to walk boldly into the day. I waste moments, minutes and even hours on worthless things like surfing the web, social media and mindless aisle perusing and shopping. I fill my days with good but not always great things to keep me from focusing on the thing or two that are most important.
Then, as a result I feel like I’ve wasted my time and squandered a gift. I don’t believe this is how I was intended to feel. While conviction is good, guilt and condemnation aren’t. Spending a little face time with Jesus, repenting and repositioning, my life realigns with peace as I trust Him in the change.
Peace looks and feels a lot like acceptance and purposefulness. I don’t think wandering is wasted time, it just requires that we press in a little more intentionally. When I truly embrace my place in this world and move intentionally towards the dreams and desires He has placed inside me the benefit we reap is peace.
How do I say yes to change in my daily life?
Do the hard things you don’t really want to do and don’t do the things you’re not supposed to do.
Heard that before? Yup, me too.
Romans 7:15-20 New Living Translation (NLT)
15 I don’t really understand myself, for I want to do what is right, but I don’t do it. Instead, I do what I hate. 16 But if I know that what I am doing is wrong, this shows that I agree that the law is good. 17 So I am not the one doing wrong; it is sin living in me that does it.
18 And I know that nothing good lives in me, that is, in my sinful nature.[a] I want to do what is right, but I can’t. 19 I want to do what is good, but I don’t. I don’t want to do what is wrong, but I do it anyway. 20 But if I do what I don’t want to do, I am not really the one doing wrong; it is sin living in me that does it.
Our sin nature calls us to do the opposite of what God calls us to do. I’m done talking about the changes as if they are hard. I’m ready to fully embrace them, quit complaining about them, and walk confidently in them.
I love that I am in a season of intentionally investing in relationships. I’m thankful that I have a place to encounter Jesus in my own backyard. I’m aware of the requirements that new directions demand and shifts that need my full and undivided attention. I’m ready to allow Jesus to order my steps and surrender my time to Him. I’m committed to doing the hard or uncomfortable things that I don’t really want to do.
And now, I’m inviting you to say yes to change with me. I know that until my heart says yes and I fully surrender to and embrace the change, I’m swimming in circles (wandering in the wilderness) and will do nothing but exhaust myself and the people closest to me.
Take a minute and respond
As we prepare to enter into a new year, evaluate your own life. Have things, directions, seasons or relationships changed? Have you said yes to the change or just endured them while throwing little fits along the way like me? What areas of your life have you avoided or boycotted change? What is God asking of you that you need to say yes to?
I would love for you to share your thoughts in the comments. Sometimes I write things because I want them to sound good, but I really only love to write things that move us all to action. We are in this together, and you are not alone! (I have a Facebook group dedicated to women who want to go a little deeper together. You can request to join here)